A couple days ago, I read this post from Chrissy, about stuff (more specifically, about quantity of stuff). It initially inspired me, because we are moving house; and even though we’re moving into something far larger than the magic bus, I’m still having to pare down the quantity of stuff. So far, I’ve gotten Sunshine to get rid of a few ratty garments, and that’s it. I’ve gotten rid of several garments, several pairs of shoes, and assorted “smalls” (books and random knick-knacks). It isn’t going to be enough. I’m going to have to get brutal.
At the same time, I have to keep in mind what Mr B pointed out to me this week. He reminded me that my usual solution to this problem is to purge my stuff so Sunshine doesn’t have to purge any of his. Mr B is right. I shouldn’t have to shrink myself to occupy less space just because Sunshine gets dickish about having to get rid of any of his stuff, especially when we’re moving into a larger home than we’ve had for the last 8 years.
It’s bad enough that, initially, the storage space I had planned for in the living room will be occupied by Sunshine’s work bench. I probably fucked up when I agreed to that one, because it doesn’t give him any incentive to hurry up and build the addition so he can have a workspace/studio. It leaves me with nowhere to hide my craft stash, and I seriously refuse to fucking purge any of it to accommodate the (hopefully) very temporary arrangement I agreed to in a moment of utter senselessness.
Side note: I feel it’s important to say that at least Sunshine mostly doesn’t have stockpiles of useless shit that serves no purpose. A lot of his shit is for hunting, art-ing, reading, making his own ammunition, and so on and so forth. So he’s not an out-of-control hoarder or anything, he’s just more stubborn in his refusal to get rid of shit because “it’s useful, it’s practical, blah blah blah” than I am. And that has to change, I have to be as persistent/stubborn/immovable as he is, or I have to be the unstoppable force that meets his immovable object; because a whole lot of my shit is practical & useful too.
I have no idea where I’m going with this, I just know it’s something I need to put out there so I can hold myself accountable. So, as I start cleaning so that we are able to move the mattress down there and sleep where it’s cooler at night, I will be doing some serious purging and organizing. With any luck, I’ll actually be able to accomplish that.